Friday, February 27, 2009

What to do when laid off

Time wrote this.

http://www.time.com/time/business/article/0,8599,1881805,00.html
Is it O.K. to express that you think the layoff is unfair, if you think it really shouldn't have been you?
Probably not. The reason why is that it makes no difference. They're not suddenly going to press the rewind button and totally unlay you off. It's just going to make you look petulant, and it's going to leave a bad taste in everybody's mouth. And you're going to look back and say, "Gosh, I wish I hadn't said that." It gets you nowhere, and dignity will get you everywhere. ( See the top 10 financial collapses of 2008.)

Friday, February 20, 2009

Craiglist

PS: I looooove my mother in law.


Wiki craiglist:
"Craigslist is a centralized network of online communities, featuring free online classified advertisements – with jobs, internships, housing, personals, erotic services, for sale/barter/wanted, services, community, gigs, résumés, and pets categories – and forums on various topics.

The service was founded in 1995 by Craig Newmark for the San Francisco Bay Area. After incorporation as a private for-profit company in 1999, Craigslist expanded into nine more U.S. cities in 2000, four each in 2001 and 2002, and 14 in 2003. As of September 2007, Craigslist has established itself in approximately 450 cities in 50 countries...

Having observed people helping one another in friendly, social and trusting communal ways on the Internet, the WELL, and Usenet, and feeling isolated as a relative newcomer to San Francisco, Craigslist founder Craig Newmark decided to create something similar for local events."

This is a funny post in Craiglist:

http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/nor/360879599.html

Dear Mother-in-law,

You have gotten on my last nerve. Seriously, cut the fucking apron strings already. Stop "dropping by' 5-7 fucking times a week. Call first. If your 'baby' doesn't answer, don't come by, just to see if we're home and not answering. I mean, who fucking does that? And if he doesn't answer, don't call my phone looking for him, then my son's cell phone, then leave some fucking smart ass message on the answering machine that you have called every number we have and NO ONE is answering!!! And then you start all over with calling him, then me,etc...within 3 minutes of leaving that fucking message!! And quit just walking into my house when you get there. Ever heard of knocking? I swear, one of these days, we're not going to see you walking up the driveway and have enough time to scramble and get our clothes back on and you are going to catch your son's big dick in my mouth. How am I supposed to look at you across the table on holidays knowing you saw me doing that? Oh and i KNOW his old loser girlfriends before me didn't mind your incessant calling, dropping by and butting in--you've told me enough times-- but his wife DOES!! We have jobs and kids and lives that don't revolve around you and you trying to stick your nose into every aspect of our lives -from what movie you think is 'appropriate" for your 14 year old grandkid to watch, to where we go out at on the weekends. Nothing and I mean NOTHING we do is any of your fucking business. If I hear you say one more fucking time "OH! I don't think that's right!!", regarding some decision we've made when discipling our kids, I swear i will take my frying pan and crack it over your fucking ignorant head. Did I ask for your opinion?? Nope, sure didn't and I never will. Oh and p.s....Do you see MY mother 'stopping by' at my house every fucking day of the week? No? That's right, we weren't raised that way. We were taught to CALL first, to see if the person is even interested in having company. I would never dream of stopping at someone's house at 10:00 at night to 'visit' for an hour, when I know my precious son and his wife both get up at 4am for work, 5 days a week. Totally unacceptable behavior. You have really gotten on my last fucking nerve and I really can't stand you. When I hear my husband mention your name I fucking cringe. We could have had a decent relationship, but you have messed all that up with your continuous fucking PRESENCE!! Not to mention the fact that all you do is bitch and complain about how we live our lives and raise our kids. Nobody fucking asked you. And NO I am NOT cooking something for Sunday dinner, so quit dropping by at dinner time to see for yourself if I really didn't cook something for your precious baby. I DIDN'T. I HAVE A FUCKING LIFE. I have a 4 year old and a 14 year old and a job in another city that I commute to more than 40 hours a week. I'm not cooking every night and every fucking Sunday for your precious baby. Cook it your damn self and invite us over for a change. And also, quit TAKING A SHIT at my house every single time you stop by. That grosses me out completely. You know damn well you live exactly three minutes down the road (which is a big part of the problem), so go shit at your own house, nasty! I've just had enough.

Love,

...I am SO over you!!!....




Sunday, February 15, 2009

Don't blow your nose

[http://www.nytimes.com/2009/02/10/health/10real.html?ex=1250139600&en=c1e54481d6fbd361&ei=5087&WT.mc_id=HL-D-I-NYT-MOD-MOD-M081-ROS-0209-PH&WT.mc_ev=clic]
Blowing your nose can create a buildup of excess pressure in sinus cavities.
The proper method is to blow one nostril at a time and to take decongestants, said Dr. Anil Kumar Lalwani, chairman of the department of otolaryngology at the New York University Langone Medical Center. This prevents a buildup of excess pressure.

Reading fiction is a waste of my time

Dengan teman kerja, aku pernah membahas kalau membaca cerita fiksi itu membuang-buang waktu. Aku ingat kalau aku tertawa dan setuju.
Pagi ini, setelah membaca beberapa bacaan, aku mulai teringat sesuatu. Pada siklusnya kebudayaan manusia, fiksi (dan bentuk seni lainnya) adalah gambaran yang jelas dari apa yang dipikirkan dan (terutama sekali) yang dirasakan oleh masyarakat pada saat itu. Seniman menangkap esensi tersebut dan menuangkannya dalam bentuk yang indah, dalam bentuk yang telanjang ataupun dibungkus dengan pengandaian.
Di dalam tamadun yang berbeda, seni justru mendorong pergerakan kebudayaan ke bentuk selanjutnya, memaksa semua kubik kehidupan lainnya untuk bergerak, memberikan satu tujuan di depan yang tadinya tidak bisa didefinisikan oleh pihak lain, terutama teknologi. Ini sebabnya kenapa kita menonton pintu yang membuka dan menutup sendiri di film sebelum memiliki teknologinya, dan juga sebab kenapa kita melihat interface yang bereaksi terhadap beberapa sentuhan sekaligus sebelum memiliki konsep teknologinya.
Jadi, seni (atau dalam bentuk yang lebih kecil dan lebih kontekstual terhadap bahasan ini, cerita fiksi) memiliki peran yang seringkali kritikal sebagai sebab atau akibat dari sebuah ide tertentu dalam suatu kebudayaan. Karena itu, keberadaannya menjadi esensial.
Tentu saja, itu bukan berarti cerita tersebut harus dibaca. Selalu ada review atau sinopsis. Dalam 800 halaman, ada 1-2 halaman ringkasan yang esensial dan menangkap pesan penting dari bacaan tersebut. Jadi, tetap saja, bagiku (dan mungkin temanku), itu tidak penting untuk dikonsumsi :D.

SMP - ku

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