American Splendor

The movie have stayed as one of my all time favorite. I love the tone that the movie brings, asides from the topic, jazz and common life.

The movie stays sideways for the whole time, but you have glimps of hope in its little scenes.

The scenery reminds me of my time during winter in Richmond, VA. It was melancholic and romantic. I miss those days sometime.

Foto Mama Ravi dulu

Foto Mama Ravi waktu dulu.

Hard question about love and simplest answer

How do you know that you've found love?
When you don't need to look out for one anymore.

di siang yang indah

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I can't wait for more of her writings.

Top TEN Things that suck MORE then writing a psychological thesis

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Sari is magic with her words. Simple and funny. Not that many are great with ideas.

Ninja, Pirate or Zombie: What’s Your Attitude to Work?

http://feeds.pickthebrain.com/~r/pickthebrain/LYVv/~3/463958610/

The Ninja Attitude

The Ninja is sickeningly efficient. He gets up at five am. He reads blogs about “life-hacking”. He custom-codes his own Firefox plugins. He multitasks by listening to audiobooks at triple speed whilst jogging to work. He sets up complicated systems to manage every aspect of his life. He knows twenty uses for a paperclip. His computer is, frankly, a bit terrifying.

You might be a Ninja if people have said:

• “I don’t know how you get so much done.”
• “Why do you need three computer screens?”
• “What do you mean, hack a moleskine notebook?”

You can escape the Ninja trap by:

• Unsubscribing from blogs with “hack” in their name.
• Taking some time out to focus on the big picture (even if that means letting the emails pile up for a while).
• Remembering that “fun” isn’t usually found on a to-do list.

The Pirate Attitude

The Pirate lives life on his terms. He rolls out of bed late (and questions why the rum is all gone). He doesn’t work unless he wants to. If this leads to client or boss issues, he’s always got an excuse and a cheeky grin. He’s driven by profit, and won’t waste time on anything that doesn’t make money immediately. He cuts corners, drops commitments, ignores emails and rarely answers the phone. If it’s not fun and/or profitable, he won’t do it.

You might be a Pirate if people have said:

• “I don’t mean to rush you, but you said we could have it three months ago…”
• “Is that ethical? Is that even legal?”
• “You %&*$!”

You can escape the Pirate trap by:

• Being willing to put in hard work for future, rather than immediate, monetary reward.
• Focusing on good relationships with customers, clients and co-workers. (It’ll pay off in the long run.)
• Thinking about your values. Are you really only driven by profit at all costs?

The Zombie Attitude

The Zombie is a model employee in many ways. He shows up bang on time. He gets on with the work assigned. He never asks for more work. He never asks for a pay rise or promotion. He never offers to take on anything outside his job remit. He never shows any initiative. His desk is unadorned with any personal items. He still uses Internet Explorer 6.

You might be a Zombie if people have said:

• “This is a bit of a boring job, but I know you won’t mind.”
• “You’ve been working here for twenty years?”
• “What’s your name again?”

You can escape the Zombie trap by:

• Waking up! Your work should be something that you’re passionate about (at least most of the time).
• Thinking about what you really enjoy in life. What makes you feel fulfilled?
• Taking a big step outside your comfort zone: quit your job, go travelling, live life.

What’s Your Work Style?

I could end this article with some supposedly perfect example of the right attitude to work (“the Superhero”, perhaps). But there isn’t one single way of working that suits everybody. The trick is to find your own style, to figure out what you want to get from your work – or what you want to contribute through it. That’ll depend a lot on what you value. Fortune? Fame? Family? Fun?

Konser Gitar Tunggal Jubing di Bandung

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One of Indonesia's Legend in classical guitar is playing in Bandung, euy. Bisa nggak ya, Det?

I think I love my wife

Best quote of the day:

I think I love my wife
I know exactly what I want
I want a woman that not only will fight with me, but for me
a woman I can go to war with, who will drag me and my kids out alive
a woman that can see the good in me, when I can't even see it myself

i know you're here

Hanya Steve Vai yang bisa membuat gitar menangis. Harus ada kata kerja baru untuk objek gitar selain memainkan dan hanya Vai yang bisa jadi subjek.

i know you're here

How Mandee explains my current browsing condition

"Everything we use have to go through that wall, which is that f*king wall."
Well put :D Poor Mandee. Poor us.

Selamat hari pahlawan.

Ada perubahan?
Ada. Banyak. Taraf hidup kita jauh berubah dari sebelum merdeka, selama orde baru, maupun pasca. Alhamdulillah, bagus jeleknya, semua pemimpin kita membawa suatu perubahan positif ke Indonesia. Sepuluh tahun yang lalu, rasanya sulit membayangkan Indonesia dipenuhi dengan orang-orang yang sebebas sekarang. Kita bisa protes kapan saja, kita bisa mengontak langsung presiden, kita bisa pilih presiden langsung (amerika aja nggak, lho).
Indonesia menjadi semakin muda, dan suara kita semua semakin didengar. Untuk melakukan perubahan, langkah yang diperlukan semakin sedikit.
Ada yang dapat diperbaiki? Ada. Dan yang paling penting adalah, apa yang dilakukan untuk merubah hal itu.
I set a high hope in other people also. Let's go, Indonesia!

Happiliy trotting back to Ravi

I wonder what he's doing now. I wish I can tell him all my stories now.
I remembered what my "other" Mom, Dee, used to say. She would send out happy thoughts to her children. Well, here I am, sending happy thoughts to everybody "up" there, as well as Ravi and Dedet.
I'm really thankful that I still have both of my parents and Ravi still has all of his grandparents.
(Up: US slang, used to point a place located north from the current location).

Vicarious learning

Norwegians build a hidrogen powered transportation infrastructure to accomodate their need for a better and user friendly transportation solution. The Koreans are accepting sport computer games as new sports. So many things going on, I feel exhausted just thinking about it. But they give me hope that people are doing better things, building things to better themselves. I hope I can study from that, bettering my life and others. I also remember that one of the creator of a famous city car, subaru 360, wanted to create that car so that everybody can afford a car and at the same time he can afford one to carry his disabled wife. I wish I can create something to better Dedet and Ravi's life.

Otoritas China Tutup-tutupi Soal Telur Bermelamin

Dari Detik:

Otoritas daerah di China ternyata telah merahasiakan adanya telur-telur yang mengandung melamin selama beberapa minggu. Namun akhirnya masalah itu dibongkar oleh otoritas Hong Kong. (http://www.detiknews.com/read/2008/10/30/155542/1028637/10/otoritas-china-tutup-tutupi-soal-telur-bermelamin).

Disayangkan, Pelaku Industri Lebih Memilih Teknologi Impor

Menurut Agus, Iluni FTUI juga menyayangkan pemilihan teknologi untuk industri baik oleh BUMN maupun swasta di Indonesia hanya berdasarkan pertimbangan harga murah. (http://www.detiknews.com/read/2008/10/30/173906/1028719/10/disayangkan,-pelaku-industri-lebih-memilih-teknologi-impor)
Yes, ILUNI, boo-hoo, poor you. But what are you going to DO about it? That's what I would like to know.

Jangan bilang kalau companies yang price aware itu tidak patriotis. Make it cheaper. Kalau nggak bisa, make imported goods more expensive. Itu tugas pemerintah.
Tadi siang ngomong dengan teman, kalau saja Indonesia keukeuh untuk bikin standar komunikasi sendiri untuk ponsel, maka Indonesia punya kesempatan untuk memproduksi jaringan dan ponselnya sendiri untuk kepentingan domestik. Bayangkan berapa trilyun yang tidak akan jadi mengalir ke luar negeri. 200 juta orang akan membeli produk Indonesia.

Jadi, pemerintah, jangan cuma maksa pendudukmu saja yang cinta produk Indonesia membabi buta. Give them A REASON. Insentif pajak, cash back, sesuatu yang menguntungkan mereka juga. Orang akan ikut, kok. Kita nggak tolol2 amat kok, kita juga pengen Indonesia maju.

In NO WAY, my bilingual display my nationality by heart. My inability to express myself better in Indonesian is another topic which I would like to blame other factors, also.

And so it goes, after years of searching

It has been years since first I've heard this song (long since Google, apparently). I felt the longing in this song, but fail to recall the full lyrics. The emptiness was all I could remember from this song.
Now, out of the blue, I remembered to look this song up.
Here it is: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eELB6NxrZ7A with the lyrics http://www.lyricsfreak.com/j/joel+billy/and+so+it+goes_20072921.html
Hearing it, now, again and again, I keep missing my Dedet. She's two feet away, sleeping soundly.

"But if my silence made you leave
Then that would be my worst mistake"

I feel soooo lucky.

150 best online flash game

This is,as they say, to kill time.
http://www.techcult.com/the-150-best-online-flash-games/

Just the Two of Us

Adih dedicated a song for me (http://www.new.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=27438809889)
I like this song, Dih. I think every father would. It's strong and macho, but also sensitive. This should explain why there is no limit and no value to what a Dad would sacrifice for his son.
I decided to explain how the lyrics explain my (and other Dad's) feeling. When I wrote this, tears kept running. I felt so much truth in those tears.

From the first time the doctor placed you in my arms
I knew Id meet death before Id let you meet harm
==Exactly what I thought. Literally. Should Little Indira said so at that time, I would quit my job and just look at him forever. Thank God babies can't talk.

Although questions arose in my mind would I be man enough
Against wrong choose right and be standin up
==This is my primary fear. I feared this even before getting married, Tusi would vouch for it (http://www.new.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=27438809889#/profile.php?sid=15966f65d4fb2b69d9ddcbeb6108bd46&refurl=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.new.facebook.com%2Fs.php%3Fref%3Dsearch%26init%3Dq%26q%3DTusi%2BSasono%26sid%3D15966f65d4fb2b69d9ddcbeb6108bd46&id=535089059&hiq=tusi%2Csasono)

People drivin all fast got me kinda upset
Got you home safe placed you in your basonette
==I believe my thoughts were, "This is MY kid, you idiot!"

That night I dont think one wink I slept
==We started raising him on Ravi's second night. It was Hell, I couldn't sleep. That night, Dedet stop sleeping like a human and started sleeping like a Mom (I think the word Mom should be written with capital M, always). I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Touched your head gently felt my heart melt
Cause I know I loved you more than life itself
Then to my knees and I begged the lord please
Let me be a good daddy all he needs
Love knowledge discipline too
I pledge my life to you
==This fills all my attention. I know no other knowledge other than this now, everything else just blurr. Please, Lord.

Sometimes I wonder what you gonna be
A general a doctor maybe a mc
==Dedet and I ponder this all the time

Haha I wanna kiss you all the time
But I will touch that butt when you cut outta line trudat
==I started disciplining Ravi way before his first month. He will stop sucking his hands; lift his behind to easen my changing his diapers,; give me his right arm, left arm, right leg and left leg; easen his tantrum; be very tolerant to uncomfortable condition when I ask him, too. I respect him for that, I think he notices my respect. I feel his and my tolerance can compliment each other. If I'm stuck with something, I'll let him know. If he doesn't know the answer to specific technical analysis, which bacteries causes typhoid, what does the tenth dimension form like or who really started killing in the name of God, he would easen my tension so I would at least come to temporarily acceptable answers.
I don't like it when he test his Mom's tolerance. That's where I draw the line. I don't think twice, it's always his fault and he should pay for it.

I pledge to you I will always do
Everything I can
Show you how to be a man
Dignity integrity honor
==Dad's would try to implant some virtue that he holds dearly, just as Ravi's own consideration. He may choose his own when he wants, too. I hope honesty, integrity, honor and dignity will stay.

And I don't mind if you lose long as you came with it
And you can cry aint no shame it it
==I would make this a point. The strongest human cries, she still stays tough

One day some girls gonna break your heart
And ooh aint no pain like from the opposite sex
Gonna hurt bad but dont take it out on the next son
==He may pick his mistakes, I will try to hold his hand on this. His Dad had it pretty easy, that's no contest.

Throughout life people will make you mad
Disrespect you and treat you bad
Let God deal with the things they do
Cause hate in your heart will consume you too
==Ravi, you should hold this dearly

Always tell the truth say your prayers
Hold doors pull out chairs easy on the swears
Youre living proof that dreams do come true
I love you and Im here for you
==These are some virtues I teach him. I believe white lies are just lies. LI was born on our 5th anni, he shines our life. I'd like him to enlighten others as well as be a good friend. I'm sure he will be smart, he has fantastic genes.

Thank you, Adih.

Bang Oma

Kenapa sih orang khotbah pake echo? Apa mereka mau jadi Bang Oma, ya?
Di masjid yang kecil dan pendengar yang tersusun panjang ke belakang, seseorang memutuskan untuk meletakkan semua speaker di baris depan menghadap ke belakang.
Dari mulai khatib ngomong (teriak, ding. Dengan sound system yang seperti ini, dia msh mau treak), aku tidak bisa mendengar pikiranku sendiri, nggak usah mengerti kata khatib.