Shortest distance between two points

Is not a line. That only applies in a 3D world. The shortest distance between two points is a wormhole (M.Kaku)

Life flashes on Vocalizing by Gita Gutawa

In a short song, my life flashed before my eyes. How hard it was for us to cross this line, to bash ourselves back into the same jungle everybody had 5 years ago. How awful was I that I needed 5 years to get here? Maybe some part of me is better prepared than some people, but I couldn’t help wondering why. Poor G, she had to be there when it all happenned.

Now I understand some part of it, why it was comfortable for most people to stay employed.

Little Indira month 6

LI sekarang lebih sering ganggu Mamanya di sore hari, banyak sekali kegiatannya. BAP (Bapak, Ayah atau Papa *belum ditentukan) baru menyesuaikan diri dengan mandi air dingin lagi, pagi2 tanpa 2 telur rebus, pergi lebih pagi dan no pool access. On the upside, BAP gets to hear G's kids (all of her sister's kids are hers by law of Minang) in the morning, 2 houses away.

rp. 1/kb murah?

aku lebih banyak menggunakan internet daripada sms di hp. kenapa? karena teman2ku dpt dihubungi via email, dan menurutku sms itu terlalu mahal.
Menjelang tidur aku menghitung lagi. IM3 menagih rp. 1 per kb. Tarif ini kelihatannya murah. Berarti 1 MB itu 1000 dan 1 GB itu sejuta. Tapi aku juga berlangganan IM2. Paket 1,2 GB itu 350 ribu, sepertiga biaya di IM3. Paket IM2 dg kapasitas lebih tinggi juga lebih murah per kb. Ini lebih mending, karena speedy 200 untuk 1 GB. Berarti tdk worth sekali paket personal itu, karena speednya rendah dibandingkan hsdpa.
Sebel sama tarif mahal ini, tapi tidak ada yg dapat aku lakukan, posisiku sgt lemah.

Ciri-ciri anak 90 dari Sari

Sari (http://siperibaikhati.multiply.com/journal/item/4) mencantumkan ciri-ciri anak 90an. Dari mana dia tahu sih? Dia kan belum lahir :D?
Ya olooh, Sar, kreatif banget sih lu. Jadi copywriter aja gih sana.

Jubing nanti sore main di Four Seasons.

Yang suka suara gitar nilon. Jubing itu termasuk gitaris Indonesia yang jago mainnya. Dia punya lagu2 yang biasa kita dengar sehari2 di album terakhirnya.

Menjelang Little Indira

Menjelang Little Indira:
Kita pindah ke Kramat Jati, Jakarta Timur.
Aku mulai bekerja (daily), entry level di market research senin depan. Selain untuk financing kepindahan kita, juga memberikan corporate experience untukku, memberikan exposure terhadap industri fmcg dari sudut pandang marketing, semoga membantuku untuk lebih mengerti industri secara umum melalui pengalaman yang lebih hands on. Kupikir-pikir, selain trading, situasi seperti inilah yang menarik bagiku. Dan aku berkesempatan untuk memulai dalam lingkungan yang sangat welcome dan helpful. Semoga aku punya kapasitas untuk karir di bidang ini.
Paramadina akan menawarkanku kelas tutorial kognitif bila ada yang buka. Mereka tetap menerimaku dengan jadwal yang lebih sempit. Still crossing my finger untuk Pancasila, Ya Wa.
Penelitianku yang terbengkalai. Terakhir kali bertemu Pak Adler Manurung, belum berhasil menentukan item kuesioner. Aku juga telat dua minggu untuk mengirimkan draft kuesioner dari thesis. Jadi malu sama beliau. Pengen belajar nulis sih, kaya'nya itu membutuhkan keahlian yang tinggi sekali.
Aku juga akan mencoba lagi untuk mendapatkan sertifikasi wmi. Tidak begitu pasti kegunaan praktisnya dalam jangka waktu yang dekat. So far, membantu menerjemahkan Bodie's Investment untuk Erlangga (thanks, Bim) membantuku mengingat2 kembali bahan kuliah dulu.
Rumah sakit: So far, rumah sakit Asih kelas II menarik bagi kami. JMC juga nggak begitu mahal. Sayangnya, Harapan Bunda Kramat Jati justru mahal. Kita belum terima ACA Igm dari Pramita Mampang, untuk bahan konsul ke dokter di JMC.
Something I miss are friends to share this with. Tapi sulit juga, semua lagi nggak available.
Aku jadi tambah kagum sama orang-orang yang bekerja keras dan berusaha dengan tekun. Seharusnya ada pahala yang bersifat universal (berlaku di semua agama) untuk effort bekerja atau belajar dengan tekun. Ada sesuatu yang indah dari hal tersebut. Aku hanya bisa kagum dari sudut pandang penonton, karena rasanya aku tidak tekun.

Anyway, berdebar-debar menjelang LI.

Dari Firman

Dapet tag dari Firman, spesifiknya di sini (http://firmanwidyasmara.multiply.com/journal/item/45/Meneliti_Seorang_Saya_dalam_8_Hitungan) kaget. Seneng sih. Tapi malu karena telat tahunya. Masih pusing ngeliatin progress di multiply dan facebook. Promise will be more attentive. Anyway, here are the rules:

Tag Rules:

1.

Each blogger must post these rules
2.

Each blogger start with random facts or habits about themselves
3.

Blogger that are tagged need to write on their own blog about eight things and post these rules. At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names.
4.

Don't forget to leave them a comment telling them they've been tagged to read your blog.


Here goes:
1. A few minutes after I got home after birth, I almost choked myself to death. Appearantly a nurse didn't get all the fluid inside me. Dad saved my life by sucking the remaining fluid from my nose with his mouth. He was panicked.

2. My dad was erecting a TV antenna when the 7 meter antenna pole fell and landed less than a meter from me, a little boy wandering around daddy with tools.

3. Growing up in a family of 4 boys, a girl's attention was precious. Everytime a little a girl was around, these 4 boys would literally be flying in the air trying to grab the attention.

4. 4 boys. Depending on the political situation, we classified ourselves by (Kalau lagi berantem, kita suka ngebagi-bagiin ke dalam kelompok tertentu):
a. Besar Kecil (Big & Small) Big is boy # 1 (me) and #2.
b. Ganjil Genap (Odd & Even) Even is boy # 2 (Hendra) and #4 (Andri).
c. Roti Isi (Bread & Filling) Filling is boy # 2 and #3 (Rio).
We had time on our hands

5. Hendra cracked my head twice, I cracked his twice. He did mine with sheer cunningness, mine was brute force.


Sekarang giliran:

1. Arien (http://ariencantiq.multiply.com/)
2. Jubing (http://jubingfantasy.multiply.com/)
3. Mia (http://miapuspita.multiply.com/)
4. Sigit (http://mbonk.multiply.com/)

Agi.. Agi

Some days ago a person regularly called my phone, insisting on talking to someone else, a person called Agi. on the first and second call, i tried to convinced her. But this person was hard-headed, and that's why I enjoyed talking to her. On our last attempt, I told her to meet with Agi and get his phone number.
+Nomernya berapa sih?
-9200....
+Kamu terakhir kali nelpon Agi kapan (jangan2 nomer gue curian lagi.. tapi kan gue beli baru?)
-Ng, teman gue sih minggu lalu katanya nelpon Agi.
+Berarti kamu belum pernah nelpon Agi?
-Belum (mulai nggak pd)
+(Kasihan, tapi jengkel) Lain kali kamu ketemu Agi, tanya nomer telponnya ya
-Iya deh (koin abis) udah dulu ya
+Ya (udah dulu? aneh banget)
This morning, she called me (for the last time?) to "report" that she DID get Agi's number wrong. Mind you it was NOT EVEN CLOSE to my number!!
-9200nya sudah bener sih, tapi belakangnya..
+Jauh amat (nggak mirip banget sama nomer gue?!)
-Iya gue salah denger. Maaf ya
+Ya udah (lucu juga, sportif dan honorable). Udah ya.

Lucunya, G bilang dia juga ada yang salah telpon. Cewek itu, tanyaku? Suara cowo, katanya.

Jangan-jangan si Agi, lagi.

Smile

In a rough Monday morning, a little smile from a stranger is oasis.

What women say and mean

Not sure where I got this, but it is hilarious:

1.) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up .
2.) Five Minutes : If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
3.) Nothing : This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
4.) Go Ahead : This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It !
5.) Loud Sigh : This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing.
(Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)
6.) That's Okay : This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
7.) Thanks : A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just say you're welcome.
8.) Whatever : Is a women's way of saying F@!K YOU!
9.) Don't worry about it, I got it : Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times , but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "What's wrong?" For the woman's response refer to #3.

In the world of marriage/romance, one single rule applies to the men:

Make the woman happy. Do something she likes and you get points. Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted. You don't get any points for doing something she expects.
That's the way the game is played.

Here is a guide to the point system:

SIMPLE DUTIES
You make the bed (+1)
You make the bed, but forget the decorative pillow (0)
You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)

You go out to buy her what she wants (+5) In the rain (+8)
But return with Beer (-5)

You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)
You check out a suspicious noise, and it is nothing (0)
You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)
You pummel it with iron rod (+10)
It's her pet (-10)



HER BIRTHDAY
You take her out to dinner (0)
You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)
Okay, it's a sports bar (-2)
And it's all-you-can-eat night (-3)
It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted the colours of your favourite team (-10)

A NIGHT OUT
You take her to a movie (+2)
You take her to a movie she likes (+4)
You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
You take her to a movie you like (-2)
It's called 'DeathCop' (-3)
You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)

YOUR PHYSIQUE
You develop a noticeable potbelly (-15)
You develop a noticeable potbelly and exercise to get rid of it (+10)
You develop a noticeable potbelly and resort to baggy jeans and baggy Hawaiian shirts (-30)
You say, "It doesn't matter, you have one too." (-8000)

ENJOY THE 'BIG' QUESTION
She asks, "Do I look fat?" (-5) [Yes, you LOSE points no matter WHAT]
You hesitate in responding (-10)
You reply, "Where?" (-35)
You say yes, no, or any other response (-20)

COMMUNICATION
When she wants to talk about a problem , you listen, displaying what looks like a concerned expression (0)
You listen, for over 30 minutes (+50)
You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+500)
She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-10000)

hehehe, see guys? gals are not that difficult to understand

Gambar handshake yang jelek

Gambar handshake ini sangat merugikan pemilik situs ini, karena message implied justru negative.
Apakah message itu? Hehehe..

Surprise

Menurut Wikipedia:
"Surprise is a brief emotional state that is the result of experiencing an unexpected event. Surprise can have any valence; that is, it can be neutral, pleasant, or unpleasant.
..
Spontaneous, involuntary surprise is often expressed for only a fraction of a second. It may be followed immediately by the emotion of fear, joy or confusion."

Today's surprise was exhausting. I could not fathom why what happened happened, but Little Indira kicked my hand, and all my trouble went away. Great timing, because nobody was available. I guess, in most situations, placebo is the best medicine.

Guru (dari Sari)

Posting Sari mengenai gurunya lucu sekali. Aku harus berhenti jadi guru karena jadwal baruku di riset pasar. Aku termotivasi seorang temanku dalam menjadi guru, Bu Ross. Bu Ross punya katering yang cukup untuk membiayai keluarganya, cukup untuk dalam sekali shift memberi makan ke hampir seribu karyawan sekaligus mungkin. Enough said, Bu Ross punya bisnis yang stabil.
Tapi setiap hari, dari pagi hingga petang, Bu Ross selalu naik turun angkutan umum, mengajar SMP, SMA, Universitas Indonesia. Kenapa? Karena beliau menikmati mengajar.
Few people have passion to teach. I do. Karena itu aku menawarkan waktuku di hari sabtu untuk tempat mengajarku, hanya untuk tetap mendapatkan slot untuk dapat berbagi sesuatu. I can't change a whole world for the better, I would stick to doing my little contribution to others by sharing something I know for their better.

Minggu Ke-20

Selamat, bayi kita sekarang sebesar pisang:

How your baby's growing:

Your baby weighs about 10 1/2 ounces now. She's also around 6 1/2 inches long from head to bottom, and about 10 inches from head to heel — the length of a banana. (For the first 20 weeks, we use measurements taken from the top of the baby's head to her bottom — known as the "crown to rump" measurement. After that, we use measurements from head to toe. This is because a baby's legs are curled up against her torso during the first half of pregnancy and are very hard to measure.)

Katanya seharusnya sih naik 5 kilo, kurang lebih sih begitu:

How your life's changing:

You've made it to the halfway mark — Congratulations! The top of your uterus is at the level of your belly button now, and you've likely gained about 10 pounds. Expect to gain an average of about another pound each week from now on. (If you started your pregnancy underweight, you may need to gain a bit more; if you were overweight, perhaps a bit less.) Make sure you're getting enough iron, a mineral that's used primarily to make hemoglobin (the part of your red blood cells that carries oxygen). During pregnancy, your body needs more iron for your developing baby and the placenta, and to keep up with your expanding blood volume. Iron-rich foods include lean red meat, poultry, fish, lentils and other legumes, spinach, and iron-fortified cereals.


Dedet sekarang jadi lebih sulit tidur, ada disebut2 sih:

Surprising Facts: Getting a good night's rest

It may become more difficult to sleep through the night as your pregnancy continues, thanks to some obvious and not-so-obvious changes taking place in your body. You may be surprised to find that:
• You start snoring for the first time in your life, thanks to hormones that cause your nasal passages to swell and partially block your airways. What to do: Sleep on your side and elevate your head slightly.
• Heartburn and indigestion can make it extra uncomfortable to lie down in bed. What to do: Try sleeping semi-upright in a comfy recliner or propped up with pillows on the sofa.
• Your legs cramp so painfully that you're jarred out of a deep sleep. This happens because your leg muscles are protesting against the extra weight they're carrying around. What to do: Ease the cramp by straightening your leg, heel first, and gently flexing your toes back toward your shins.
• You toss and turn all night trying to find a comfortable sleeping position. What to do: Try sleeping with a pillow between your legs or using a contoured maternity body pillow.
• You become hot and sweaty in the middle of the night. It's common for pregnant women to run a little warm thanks to shifts in your metabolism, hormones, and weight. What to do: Keep your bedroom cool and strip down to the bare essentials — which may include a maternity bra and a maternity belt to help support your growing breasts and belly, and perhaps some socks if only your feet are chilly. Keep slippers and a snuggly bathrobe handy for those nighttime trips to the bathroom.
• Getting out of bed is harder than ever! What to do: Roll over onto your left side and "tip" yourself up, feet first. When your legs touch the floor, use your arms to push yourself into a sitting position on the bed. Then stand up.

Wear sleepwear made out of a natural, breathable fiber like cotton. Avoid synthetics, which trap moisture next to your skin and can leave you damp and chilled.

• Sometimes even though you're exhausted, you just can't sleep. So do you toss and turn waiting for sleep to catch up with you — or try to tire yourself out instead?


Daddy Diary:
Nggak terlalu banyak lagi surprise. Kita sekarang fokus pada persiapan untuk life with a baby. Decided to approach a house.
Membeli rumah adalah salah satu keputusan finansial yang besar, karena mempengaruhi sebagian besar carrier life kita (10-15 tahun). Karena itu, sebaiknya membeli rumah dilakukan dengan melalui perhitungan dan pertimbangan.

Best quote of the day

There is nobody who needs nobody.
(Your Next Lover, Lori McKenna)

Forced conclusion

Knowing something, my immediate respond is to let it out, let it be known by anybody, everybody I know. I can't imagine living as a person who knows a lot and keep everything he knows to himself. I'd imagine I would want to share. Of course I'm talking about valuable information that is usable to better others, to help others. My first and only respond would be to share.
"By helping others, we are helping ourselves."
Right now, I'm questioning that virtue. Should I be quite instead? In free market, you don't tell others valuable information. You use it to your advantage, you let others take the wrong action and profit from it. It is widespread, insurance, equity and its derivatives, banking, simple trade or barter, commodities, futures, the list goes universally. You advantage of that information is your profit. It is the only way to succeed.
Where does helping others stand in this equation?
Faced with this conclusion, what should one do?
I don't enjoy coming to this conclusion.

Bayi nangis sebelum tidur, dibiarkan?

Temanku bercerita kalau dia membiarkan bayinya nangis dalam proses tidur. Katanya, sejak 6 bulan, dia membiarkan bayinya di tempat tidur untuk berusaha tidur sendiri. Kalau bayinya susah tidur dan menuntut ASI, dia akan memberikan air putih saja. Menurutnya, dalam selang waktu yang sebentar, bayinya akan terbiasa untuk tidak menuntut ASI lagi.
Walaupun takut mendengarnya, aku tertarik dan ingin mengerti lebih lanjut. Bagaimanapun juga temanku ini sangat mengerti mengenai manusia dan perkembangannya, kita dididik dengan disiplin yang sama mengenai emosi dan kognisi manusia. Aku hanya perlu mengejar train of thought nya untuk mengerti apa yang dimaksudkan.
Teknik tersebut mungkin disebut Ferber (http://www.babycenter.com/0_baby-sleep-training-cry-it-out-methods_1497112.bc). Menurut Ferber, bisa jadi menangis (dalam rentang waktu tertentu, tidak terlalu lama) untuk sementara waktu adalah bagian dari proses tidur bayi. Bayi akan mencari kebiasaan menjelang tidur, dan kalau kita terlanjur memberikan ayunan menjelang tidur, bayi akan mencari ayunan tersebut kembali saat terbangun di tengah malam dan setiap saat menjelang tidur.
Teknik ini tidak sepenuhnya membiarkan bayi anda begitu saja untuk menangis, jadi aku salah menangkap konsep dari teknik ini melalui cerita temanku. Intinya adalah mengajarkan pada bayi anda bagaimana urutan-urutan kebiasaan menjelang tidur, sehingga secara behavioris, anda mengajarkan asosiasi tersebut. Bayi yang mampu untuk tidur sendiri akan dapat menenangkan dirinya sendiri saat terbangun di malam hari. Bayi yang memiliki kemampuan ini akan memiliki kualitas tidur yang jauh lebih baik. Kualitas tidur yang baik akan membenarkan bayi tenaga yang maksimal untuk beraktifitas di siang hari.
Berikut adalah tips dalam menjalankan teknik ini, yang secara salah diberi nama Cry It Out.
http://www.babycenter.com/0_baby-sleep-training-cry-it-out-methods_1497112.bc?articleId=1497112&page=3#articlesection0

• Set the stage for success before you try a CIO method by developing a bedtime routine and sticking to it. For example, a bath, a book, a lullaby, then to bed, at the same time every night. This way your child knows exactly what to expect.

• Develop a solid plan and make sure you and your partner are prepared before you begin sleep training — both practically and emotionally. On the practical side, it's probably not a good idea to launch your sleep plan if your partner is about to take off on a business trip, for example, or if your in-laws are coming for a visit.

On the emotional side, talk the plan over with your partner and make sure you both understand and agree on how to proceed. That way you'll be able to support each other if you run into rough patches.

• Once you launch your plan, stick to it. Parents who've been through sleep training agree that consistency is the key. Unless you realize that your child simply isn't physically or emotionally ready and you decide to put the program on hold for a while, follow through with it for a couple of weeks. When your baby wakes you up at 2 a.m., you may be tempted to give in and hold or rock him, but if you do, your hard work will be wasted and you'll have to start over from square one.

• Plan to lose a little sleep. Begin the CIO method on a night when it won't matter if you miss a little sleep. For example, if you work all week, you might want to start on a Friday night, so you'll be able to catch up on lost sleep by the time Monday comes around.

• Prepare yourself for a few difficult nights. Hearing your baby cry can be excruciating, as every parent knows. During the waiting periods, set a timer and go to a different part of the house, or turn on some music, so you don't have to hear every whimper. As one BabyCenter parents says, "The first couple of nights could be rough for you. Try to relax and know that when it's all over, everyone in your household is going to sleep more easily and happily."

• Make it a team effort. During waiting periods, do something enjoyable with your partner, like play cards or listen to music. If you find the crying intolerable after a while, let your partner take over so you can take a walk or a warm bath. When you're refreshed, you can give your partner a break.

• Adapt the method to fit your family. If you want to try a method like this but find it too harsh, you can use a more gradual approach. For instance, you can stretch out Ferber's seven-day program over 14 days, increasing the wait every other night rather than every night. Remember your primary objective: To give yourself and your child a good night's rest.

Aku menjadi lebih tenang setelah membaca penjelasan ini. Jadi intinya adalah memberikan kebiasan dan kemampuan bagi bayi untuk tidur saat dia perlu tidur. Kalau berhasil, bayi ini akan memiliki kualitas tidur jauh lebih baik dari kami berdua (kami memiliki kemampuan yang lumayan buruk untuk menenangkan diri sendiri sebelum tidur. Kami tidak menangis sebelum tidur, namun kami kesulitan untuk tidur. Aku selalu terganggu dengan sudden rush of ideas, jadi kemampuan ini sangat kuhargai. Akupun akan belajar untuk menguasai teknik ini.

Best quote today

You play the cards you're dealt with.

I don't know why you love me

Finally found Tuck Andress' "Betcha by Golly Wow". Found out that that song makes me miss Dedet (she's 3 feet away from where I'm typing, sleeping).
Things calming down, I finally found myself feeling really guilty with my guitar. Not any particular guitar, but the fact that I stopped playing guitar for a while. Things was so awful in my life, I tried to blame it on "the guitar". Things are better now, finding out that I miss the guitar showed me something in the past that I still would like to carry around with me. I hope I can get my hands on my small guitar at Utan soon, I could use the exercise.
I also miss Dee. Wonder what she's doing right now. 1995 was 13 years ago, so much has happened. I'm glad she visited me three years ago (has it been that long?)